Advice from my Big Sister – Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie
Last week, the award-winning author Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie was the honorary guest speaker for the 137th Commencement at Wellesley College, Massachusetts. I listened to her speech not once, but twice as I soaked up the words of wisdom like she really was my own Big Sister.
I decided to write on my blog about this bold, beautiful and brilliant woman because her words resonated with me. She analyzes and dares to challenge certain ideologies and society norms to provoke thought. Her honesty and realness is refreshing. I have always admired her, from her books, speeches and interviews to her personality and style.
This phenomenal woman who is my Role Model is also my #WCW for this Month. She is such a classy and authentic human being who inspires the best in us. There is alot we can learn from her, and this world is a better place with her in it. So BELOW are
15 lessons from Chimamanda’s commencement speech and the more reason SHE ROCKS.
- “All over the world, girls are raised to be likeable, to twist themselves into shapes that suit other people. Please, do not twist yourselves into shapes to please. The world is such a gloriously multifaceted diverse place, that there are people in the world who will like you, the real you.”
- “Never ever accept BECAUSE YOU’RE A WOMAN as a reason for doing or not doing anything.”
- “Men are not inherently bad or evil, they are merely privileged. Privilege blinds, because it is the nature of privilege.”
- “Victimhood is not a virtue. That being discriminated against doesn’t make you somehow morally better.”
- “Always try and create the world you want to live in. Minister to the world in a way that can change it. Minister radically, in a real, active, practical, get your hands dirty way.”
- “Teach your students that vulnerability is a human rather than a female trait.”
- “Commission magazine articles that teach men how to keep a woman happy because there are already too many magazines that tell a woman how to keep a man happy.”
- “In media interviews, make sure fathers are asked how to balance family and work.”
- “In this age of parenting as guilt, please spread the guilt equally (to fathers and mothers).”
- “Campaign and agitate for paid paternity leave everywhere in America.”
- “Hire more women where there are few. Remember that the woman you hire doesn’t have to be exceptionally good. Like the majority of men who get hired, she just has to be good enough.”
- “Feminism should be an inclusive party with different feminisms.”
- “The only acceptable way of wasting your time is online shopping.”
- “To Love is to Give and Take, Dare to Take.”
- “Your standardized ideologies will not always fit your life, because life is always messy.”